Monday, March 14, 2011

Review & Tour Stop: Memoirs of a Widowed Mistress by Megan Van Eyck

Memoirs of a Widowed Mistress

Author: Megan van Eyck

Paperback: 308 pages

Publisher: Create Space (January 14,2011)



"Memoirs of a Widowed Mistress is a cautionary tale about the causal relationship between marital emotional neglect and questionable choices. It is a warning for the spouse who wants to dismiss an affair as just sex or for any woman who thinks love is enough to keep a man that isn't really hers. 

"You never know what happens between two people when they are alone" is a common sentiment reserved for married couples who appear to have relationships that defy the odds. The same can also be said for couples involved in long-term adulterous affairs.

Many people believe that infidelity is only about sex: two people, one hotel room, and a few hours to spare. And Megan van Eyck's extramarital affair began just like that, with lusty hours spent between hotel sheets. But within a few months van Eyck realized she had found what she and her lover did not know they were both looking for: true love. 

Memoirs of a Widowed Mistress offers an honest look behind closed doors. It is a forthcoming, sometimes steamy, account of both the passion and the heartbreak associated with being a mistress; about the futility of sharing a love while not sharing a life. Van Eyck is reflective as she addresses her compelling and unusual personal history, which made being the other woman an acceptable option. She makes no excuses for herself, her mistakes, or her betrayal of her husband as she recklessly pursues love. She wants everything, unabashedly.

But her priorities shift when Carlos, her lover, is diagnosed with Amyloidosis, a rare blood disorder. Her concerns shift for hoping for a life with him to hoping that he'll be able to live through treatment for this rare and incurable disease.  In the end, van Eyck must not only come to terms with her loss, mistakes and regrets, she must come to terms with herself.

Memoirs of a Widowed Mistress is must read for anyone that has struggled with love, intimacy or self-acceptance. Memoirs of a Widowed Mistress will captivate supporters, surprise critics and change the perspective of those that have ever considered having an affair"

My thoughts: 
Megan van Eyck holds nothing back in her debut memoir. I have enjoyed "forbidden love" stories ever since I read Romeo & Juliet in high school.  At first, I wasn't sure how I would feel about this story. To disclose, I am married and have a child and I would be devastated if infidelity wormed it's way into our marriage. I almost WANTED to dislike her for not only stepping outside of her marriage, but starting a relationship with someone else's husband. However, I was so emotionally pulled into the story and her beautiful prose, I soon forgot about all my pre-conceived misconceptions. It's simply a story about Love.

I think the author did a great job blending chapters about her childhood/earlier years and weaving in the story of her and Carlos. There are so many INTENSE emotions in this book. Love, Lust, Anger, Jealousy and Grief... 

If my one year old didn't need my attention I think I could have read this in one sitting. When I was finished reading, I felt like I had just had a long conversation with a close friend. Her writing style makes the pages fly by. She lays out everything on the table; the good, bad and ugly which leaves her very vulnerable. I am amazed with the courage it must have taken to write this! I would love to read anything else she writes! 

Final Thoughts: The cover is simply gorgeous and the writing is impeccable. The book is laid out wonderfully and I felt like I was experiencing the intense high's and lows right along with Megan. Amazing! 

4.5 / 5.0 Stars!

About Megan Van Eyck:
Megan van Eyck lives near Seattle, Washington with her husband and children. Memoirs of a Widowed Mistress is her debut memoir.

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Disclosure: A review copy was provided to me courtesy of Pump Up Your Book Tours. All thoughts and opinions are my own. I was not compensated for this review in any way.


  1. Wow. Great review. I have the same reservations. But I might just stay away because I don't want to like the mistress. It seems only fair to wife. I'm kidding but it really does sound like an interesting read.

  2. Tara-Thank you so much for your kind words. I love that you said my tale is simply a story about love. I certainly wasn't looking for it when I met Carlos, but that was what I found.

  3. Awesome review! This book sounds really intense and gripping. Getting the "other" story about the illicit romance is a new twist and I like it.

  4. Sounds sad. I don't know if it's one I could get through, seems a little too intense for me.